How Cuarentena was born
I had approached parenting with a quiet resignation that "it would be very hard". As a child and family therapist specialized in infant mental health, I worked with so many parents that cannot find joy, cannot connect with a sense of love for their child, cannot remember why they wanted to be parents or feel what their task is truly about. A part of me was calm, trusting and excited, another part of me was really afraid. I would find myself mentally saying goodbye to experiences and events as if I was never going to experience life 'this way' again.
Being from South America I knew what my cuarentena would 'look' like, but wondered what it would 'feel' like. Having a lot of family around for a prolonged period of time is not suited for everyone. My mother and sister came to live with us for two months after our baby was born; we had lived in Portland for just one month before giving birth so we didn't have any friends or community to come help.
The supportive atmosphere they created gave me enough emotional space to process the enormous experience that it is to become a mother. The inner transformation as a woman, the process of bonding with our baby and adapting to all the newness... nothing was clouded by exhaustion, isolation, or by feeling overwhelmed from trying to continue life as it was just a moment ago, before baby was here. My husband and I were able to fully live those early joys and confidently explore our fears and needs; it was just the right system to allow us the necessary space "to be". And the most important of all, I believe that thanks to this we were able to really see our baby from day one. To recognize her as a person with emotions, with needs, with rights, and to connect with her uniqueness, also allowing her "to be".
Now, as I blend my mother-self with my infant mental health-self, I bring CUARENTENA, in the hope that other families can find the right kind of support to allow the expression of their best potential during those crucial first 40 days, and all the time after.
Founder & Director